Social Media

 

I have seen a great deal of worry about social media, Face Book, and other platforms in the last month, with the new administration’s election. In fact, the concern goes back further in time, as I just finished reading The Anxious Generation, which connects our mental health crisis directly to the rise of cell phone. I agreed with the author’s premise the smart phones are not good for our mental health; we do not have smart phones at home and still answer (or not) a landline.  Obviously, we are not a technology free household but we have some limits that help to keep us sane.

First, all of our engagement with anything online is through our shared laptop. Mark has a computer, but it is in the basement and its cold down there. So we negotiate for my laptop upstairs.  I use it when I come home from work because I have council business to deal with. Mark works on his stuff while I cook dinner. If one of us has an online meeting, we have to arrange ahead of time. It’s like having only one car (we have one car, too).  Because we are not always online, we have a break. There’s not a constant pinging in our lives.

Second, I have curated my Face Book account.  After the first Trump election, I deleted everything political. I unliked all of my news sources and political pages. It was amazing. This left me with a whole lot of potato sellers and garden seeds, which is lovely. And it has held. I have no political junk cluttering up the feed. I do have underwear ads (the nice socks have disappeared) and some photos of Boston in the 1970s, but I can live with that. I post nothing political.  It helps.

Finally, every Friday evening, I shut down the computer for a technology Shabbat.  No email. No New York Times—not even the games. No checking social media. No packet questions, or printing. The laptop is closed. Mark usually participates as well, but he is not bound by it. If you want to reach me, you have to call. Or catch us on the way to the market. Or stop by with a question.  It’s all good.

I have found that having these limits keeps me sane and rooted in the real world. I have control of my online life—we all do. We just need to take it back.  And it’s Friday, so it is time to make dinner, read my book, maybe draw the garden plan, stretch my eyes away from a screen, and have a real life. In this, as in so many other ways, we have agency.

Late Fragment

 

And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
I did.
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth.

House Cleaning

 

          

      Ceres Bakery used to have—maybe still does—a series of metal baskets over the sinks, where we stored all of the utensils. Scoops of all sizes, spoons, forks, whisks, anything that would fit, was washed and tucked in the baskets to dry. It was usually a joyous chaos of stuff. Occasionally, someone would tidy it up, bringing like items together in a basket. That was usually a sign that their life felt a bit… messy…and they needed some small part of it to be orderly. Something, if only the cookie scoops, was in the right place.

                Weekends are the time to bring order back into the chaos of our house.  It’s a small space, so piles of paper build up quickly. Cat litter is dragged out of the bathroom; the cat, despite her tired back legs, still manages to thrust considerable litter onto the floor. Shoes cluster by the front and back doors. There are hats and socks in weird places. There may be chicken poop in the back hall from the bottom of our shoes and there is clearly mud. The recycling needs to go out and there is no food left in the fridge. Spiders move into undisturbed corners. Nothing is written in my planner and I have a deep and abiding suspicion that I have forgotten to do something or meet someone. I couldn’t just have an empty day….

                We divided the tasks. Mark did the laundry, including the huge sheet pile, while I washed the floors. He defrosted the freezer and we finally composted the second half of his birthday cake from last January 16th.  I put away piles of stuff and made a food plan, and we went to the Farmer’s Market and the co-op.  I even started the seed inventory. There is something deeply satisfying about bringing order back into our home; it has the same resonance as the scent of a crock pot full of cooking beans wafting into my bedroom at night.  All is right with this small section of the world—even if the cat has already pulled down the afghan I had so neatly folded over the back of the rocking chair.

Laurel prune

 

                January can be rough in the Willamette Valley.  It’s chilly, and wet, and there is mud everywhere, and the tires from cars have turned all the leaves into slippery piles of goo. There are indoor activities, like browsing seed catalogs, reading, and repairing chairs, but we need to get outside. The one thing I can do in the yard right now is prune. I start on one side of the yard, with the laurel, and work my way round: laurel, fig, apple, plum, grapes, lilac, hazelnuts, back yard laurel. I try and stagger the laurels because of the vast amounts of biomass a big pruning creates.  

                This year, it was the side yard laurel’s turn. I do it in January so it has time to fluff out before summer; the laurel is our best privacy screen. When I first became the caretaker of this hedge, I worried about pruning it too hard—would I kill it? But then one of my students, who was helping me paint the house, gave a section a huge whack job. “Don’t worry,” he assured me, as only 15 year old boy can, “It will be back.” He was right. Before we took down the garage, the roofline was my guide to the right height. This year, I went lower, below all of the other year’s trimmings.  I wanted to clean up the huge masses of gnarly branches and suckers, all holding dead leaves. With my beautiful new pruning saw, it was a project. Without it, it would have been impossible.

  

              Pruning the laurel is a three step process. First, I work on our side of the hedge, pushing all of the branches back. Then I bring everything that I can reach down to the right height. This requires considerable ladder maneuvering and long reaches across the surface, stretching and pulling branches towards me while I saw madly. I toss all of the trimmings behind me into the yard, away from the ladder (I’ve learned a bit after tripping on a few over the years.).  Once I have brought down and pushed back about two thirds of the hedge—which takes two sessions—I clear up the mess, hauling most of the green branches back to the compost pile and cutting up the heavy logs for the street compost cart.

                Today, I finished the other side of the hedge. The neighbors moved their car so that they way was clear. In less than an hour, I had it all down and out of the driveway—a new record. Mark cut it up and moved the brush while I sawed and worked the loppers. It’s not perfectly even and there are few dead branches poking up that I still need to pull out, but it is done, just before the rain started up again.

New to Us Rocking Chair

 

Last summer, I acquired a small rocking chair for free; the landlords were moving shop and I admired it. “Take it,” she said. “Then we don’t have to move it.” Mark and I carried it home and I put it in the shade by the greenhouse. All summer, the cat and I traded places on the old cushions. When the rains began, I moved it into the greenhouse until I realized that the fabric was rotting away, so I brought it in for a refresh.  Winter Break is the perfect time for such a project.

1.       Choose the paint. I went for the deep golden yellow of my bookshelves in the Cozy Room. That way, it will blend into the room if I wanted it there.

2.       Find a new cushion—for three dollars, I nabbed a lovely cushion from the thrift shop across from the paint store.

3.       Strip off the old fabric, after taking photos.

4.       Remove the small tacks holding the skirt on. Chisel some out….watch your hands.

5.       Put the chair in the tub for a bath.

6.       Lightly sand the whole thing.

7.       Move into the dining room and prime it. Wait 36 hours for the primer to dry in the chilly room. Be sure to leave some areas, hidden from view, uncovered so that you can still know what the original color was.

8.       First coat of yellow paint, also in the dining room. Another 36 hours to dry…move the chair into the house for the second coat.

9.       While waiting for the paint to dry, cover the two cushions with some old blue fabric that was the living room curtains several years ago. Also, use the last bits of fabric from the couch refurb to make the skirt.

10.   Replace the burlap that covered the springs and protected the cushions.

11.   Tack the skirt on and tie the cushions down. This time, they can come off, so, if the chair is in the greenhouse, the cushions can travel in and out, depending upon weather and dampness.

12.  

Bask in the new seat in front of the fire. Argue with the cat on whose spot it is.