The Book of Form and Emptiness, by
Cynthia Ozeki, considers the nature of the stuff we surround ourselves with---
what if it could speak? What stories would it tell us? Do we really need all of
this stuff—and the stories it holds—around us all the time? Or does it drive us
crazy? Because I have been working my way through it for a week or so—trading off
with Regime Change—I have been
hearing the stories of my own stuff.
*****
Over ten years
ago, Mark bought me an android tablet with a seven inch screen. I loved—still love—it.
It connects to Wi-Fi, so I could check email and post photographs easily. I could
read the news, search up information,
and download podcasts for long car rides. It allowed both of us to go online at
home in the evening (we have one computer). It was great for traveling. It did
not, however, tether me to a cell tower and constant connections, so there were
clear boundaries built in. It was perfect. Over the years, though, its use has
faded. It is too old to take some upgrades, so functions have faded. First, no
photos with the newspaper, then no newspaper, then no searching at all. It
takes much longer to charge the battery. It is going to stop working completely
someday soon. But, when I went to replace it—it is no longer being made. That
niche product, hovering between a tablet and a phone, is gone. Like the perfect pair of pants, it is no
longer there.
*****
Confession—I am
a dish hoarder. I can resist the call of everything else, but not a vintage
dish. We could feed sixty people and not run out of plates…
When I was in my
twenties, I was wandering around Bar Harbor Maine one day and stopped to peer
into a Fancy Kitchen store window. There was a new line of dishes displayed:
Lindt-Stymiest Colorways. I fell in
love. But, in a Fancy Kitchen store, items are not cheap, so I moved on that
day. Later that year, I bought the
butter dish which is featured in Still
Life with Menu from the same era. My boyfriend bought me the large teapot
to replace the one of a different design that he broke dropping by a cast iron
pan on it. Years later, I found the mugs in a fancy used kitchen store in San Francisco;
the plates about ten years ago here in thrift shop. Mark bought the yellow oil cruet online. They
are beautiful on the outdoor table. If
they could speak, they would talk about food and friendship and everyday life.
*****
Finally, a friend
died this week. She lived a full and rich life—one of the generation that went
to college, married, raised children, traveled all over and then said—this is
not enough, so they joined the League of Women Voters to spend countless hours
tracking local and federal elections and ballot measures, writing and applying
position statements, and testifying at all levels of government. They gathered around
kitchen tables, drank far more coffee than anyone should, and talked. Brilliant
women with time to work for change. She will be missed.
I loved meeting
at her house. It felt like stepping back in time. They bought their furniture
when they married—mid century modern, beautiful wood—and then moved into one of
the ranch houses that abound here in the Pacific Northwest, clinging to the
side of a hill, surrounded by trees, with a deck, rather than a yard,
birdfeeders and a daylight basement, with another possible entire house down
below. The furniture, the house, the
dishes, the coffee and conversation, were all of a piece and evoked that mid
century time when we felt like there could be profound change and we, as local citizens,
could bring it forth.