I have been thinking, this week, about the way we, in community, catch people and are caught ourselves.
A few years ago, a friend was climbing into a tree house, stepped on a rotten board and fell a long way. She was in the hospital for weeks and then home, immobile, for several months. When she was up and around again, she said that she felt like she fell out of a tree and right into the arms of her community, as everyone gathered around to help her heal. That image of arms reaching out to catch her—to catch all of us—has stuck with me.
I have felt the same arms (literally, in some cases) reaching out to catch me in the past year. As soon as the Fiasco hit the news, people reached out. First, the city councilor whom I replaced—a deep voice on the line “What the hell’s going on? Do not give in and leave” followed by a flood of emails, phone calls, conversations…Where ever I went, someone was showing support, reaching out, asking questions, saying thank you. And it continues today. I have felt firm, supportive hand in the middle of my back for a year. I was caught.
And so, I was talking with another friend about this—that, when we really need help, our community catches us. It was her first time, at 73, experiencing being caught; she has always been the one doing the catching. Showing up, moving chairs, asking how she can help and move things forward. Raising children. Taking care of a spouse. Saving the planet. Always catching, not being caught. It was a little weird and uncomfortable to be on the other side, to be the one needing help. Maybe, we thought, we need to trade roles more often, to allow ourselves to be caught and supported in smaller crises as we move through life, so that we know, when a big one comes along, that we are not alone.
