This si an old post, but I think we all need a little more protection in the coming Winter.
Pumpkin Spirits guard our house on the thinnest nights of the year.
This si an old post, but I think we all need a little more protection in the coming Winter.
Pumpkin Spirits guard our house on the thinnest nights of the year.
My mother was a traditional daily cook. Every night, she made dinner—meat, potatoes, veg. Some nights it was pasta. Some weekend nights, it might be a roast. But she cooked from scratch (except for an occasional can of tomato soup for the top of the meatloaf and frozen veggies), every night. When we were traveling across the country in a camper, she cooked. We ate dinner on Fisherman’s Wharf, with the tourists walking by peering in. We ate dinner perched on the Western edge of the country, in rest areas in the Southwest, every night. Even when she worked full time, it’s not like there were a lot of options in Hampstead New Hampshire—pizza and meatball subs, a fried clam bar in the summer, a Chinese restaurant in the strip mall that held the grocery store ten miles away. But everyone cooked. It was what you did.
When I was in college, cooking was my job. My roommate woke up at six AM on Saturday morning and cleaned the bathroom while I slept in until eight. I planned the meals, made the Friday afternoon grocery list, and cooked. We washed dishes together, harmonizing along with The Doobie Brothers “Black Water” and the Beatles. Even when I lived alone, for years, I cooked dinner. The menus shifted away from meat and potatoes and more to soups and bread, pastas and rice, mounds of local and seasonal veggies, cooked and uncooked. On the road, I became the master of a finicky Coleman stove, slow cooking pots of beans while reading in the late afternoon at a campground. I kept the wok under the shelf. Even now, I make flatbread and farls, soups and stir fries when we travel. Mark jokes that he thought he might stick around when I handed him a hot dinner on a real plate in the back country off China Hat Road on an early road trip.
So the pandemic hasn’t really changed much for us around dinner time. I cook. Mark washes dishes. We miss going out to dinner, not because of the food, but because we can just let someone else do the work and, more importantly, because you always see someone you know when you go out to eat in Corvallis. We are just not that big a town. And I think that is what I am missing, far more than the break from cooking. The casual interaction with my neighbors—the parents of an old student or the table with a newly minted ninth grader eating with her family and wondering—do I say something? Nod and smile? Or just announce it in class on Monday? Eating at home every night breaks those delicate bonds that hold a community together, even as it strengths the ones that keep a small family close.
Yesterday, we washed the windows. We’re not good window washers. There are always streaks and spots left behind, but we get off the worst of the dirt and dust and bug poop from the summer. This year, between the mess we made washing the house for painting plus the ash fall in September, it was a major task. Mark washes outside. I wash inside. We also scraped paint. “You missed some glazing here,” he observed. “Next summer,” I replied. We are at that point. Next summer’s project list begins.
This afternoon, we worked in the school garden, realigning a couple of beds and tossing down the cover crop. I’ve been prepping a bed a day all week and an hour on Sunday finished up the roughest beds. There’s plenty still to do- -tomatoes to pull, kale and carrots to weed, paths to mulch. But we took a few moments to consider future plans. We could tear out those evergreens and plant fruit trees. Put out benches so classes can come out and read. Keep pulling thistle and nut sedge and clear out the grass in the herb mound. Some of that will happen this fall, as long as the weather stays dry, but some is for next summer or the summer after that. The light slanted across the playing fields, struck the stained glass piece hung above the pollinator habitat, turned the world gold for a few moments.
We turn inward in the evenings, light a fire, eat a squash for dinner, wear wooly socks while we read. Soon, the clouds of winter will lay over us without a break—“there will be months of rain.” But, right now, we hover on the cusp of the turning year, not quite ready to come inside. And we start the plans for the next year.
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1. We have a fire in the fireplace.
2. I turned on the chili pepper lights in the kitchen.
3. Laundry is hanging on a rack in the living room.
4. There are squashes and onions in the larder, potatoes under the stairs, cider in the fridge.
5. The windows are closed.
6. The cat did not go out last night, by her own choice.
7. The chickens are living on a garden bed.
8. There are no zucchini in the house, although there may still be a few in the garden.
9. Socks. Big woolly sweater.
10. Damp raincoats hang in the back hall.
11. Piles of books, the New York Times, magazines scattered on the couch for Sunday reading.
12. Lentil soup bubbles in the crockpot.
This winter, we fear, will be more challenging than others, but we are Hardy Folk, knowing how to both snug down for the afternoon and embrace the wild winds and rain on a morning walk.