When
I was little, Memorial Day was still celebrated on May 31st, not as a
long weekend. The best parade in the area was in Newton Junction, which consisted
of a school, a few houses, a railroad line, and a small general store. My grandparents
lived across from the school. The parade
started at four in the afternoon. After school, my aunt piled her three kids
into the back of the station wagon, picked up my mom and me, and drove the
windy, bumpy, tree lined roads to my grandmother’s house for the parade.
It
was a traditional parade. School bands, veterans
from several wars, a few floats pulled by old trucks, some dogs and kids on
bikes. It marched down the main “street” and the watchers curved into the
parade as it passed, so it grew longer every few feet. My cousins and I fell
cheerfully into line behind the bands—a stairstep family of four, if anyone was
looking. I blended in perfectly; my cousin Steven and I had the same hair,
smile, freckles. Twins. The marching band
led the way to the cemetery, where things grew more serious.
The
cemetery was small, green, a bit overgrown, but spruced up for the ceremony.
There must have been a monument or two for World War Two, World War One, and
Korea. There must have been flags. The Vietnam
War was just about to escalate. Everyone there had sons who had served—my family
enlisted in the air force. My uncle was stationed in Japan. The adults all
remembered wars. What struck me, then,
though, was the silence. The entire town gathered in this small, still, green
space, and stood in silence.
Someone
spoke a few words. Someone else laid a wreath on the graves, maybe a flag. There
was a six gun salute, which scared all of us every year. The sound hurt our
ears, reminded us of the violence of war. Then someone played Taps, the clear
notes rising through the evening air. Day is Done. This day was done for us, four
small kids. The larger day was done for all of the men who had served our
country. We knew this.
When
the ceremony was over, we all wandered back home for dinner. I suspect we
stayed at my grandparent’s house and they chased us outside while they cooked
hamburgers and set the table. We ran around, shouting, arguing, slipping across
the street to climb on the monkey bars. Life went on—but we remembered, deep
down, the silence of the cemetery.